Mom guilt is a very common experience for mothers, especially working moms who juggle the demands of career and family. Nearly every mom polled in one survey agreed they have experienced mom guilt. The most common sources include getting frustrated with kids, not being patient enough, not being able to afford everything kids want, and not constantly engaging with a baby while they are awake.

However, mom guilt is often misplaced and unnecessary. These feelings of guilt are completely normal and reflect the fact that you are a human being. Moms are not superhuman and are bound to make mistakes or have moments where they are not at their best. Feeling guilty for having moments of frustration or needing time for self-care is unrealistic and counterproductive.

Guilt can be a positive force when it motivates us to make needed changes or apologize for wrongdoing. But dwelling on guilt and punishing yourself is not helpful. You are doing the best you can and that is enough. Your child would much rather have an imperfect but loving parent than a perfect one who is always stressed and hard on themselves.

It's important to keep your expectations realistic. Moms today face unrealistic societal pressures to "do it all" and be everything to everyone. But there are only 24 hours in a day. Something has to give when you have competing responsibilities to your children, partner, work, and yourself. Feeling guilty for not being able to be 100% perfect in every role is futile.

Instead of beating yourself up, focus on your child's needs, not wants. Provide love, stability, and meet their basic needs. Spend quality time together, not just quantity. Apologize sincerely when you make a mistake, then move on. Take care of your own well-being so you can be the best version of yourself for your family. With self-compassion and realistic expectations, you can overcome misplaced mom guilt.

Balance Careers and Family Without Mom Guilt

Set Realistic Expectations

Let go of the unrealistic societal pressure to be perfect in every role. Prioritize your most important tasks and goals, and don't overcommit yourself. It's okay to politely decline requests that will overload you. Your time is precious.

Keep Work and Home Life Separate

Set boundaries between your career and family responsibilities. Don't bring work stress home, and avoid working during family time unless absolutely necessary. Rely on outside help to maintain this separation.

Focus on Quality Time with Your Kids

When you are with your children, be fully present and engaged. Share your work with them and be a role model. But also make sure to take care of yourself with some "me time" to recharge.

Recognize That You Are Doing Enough

Feeling guilty is normal for working moms, but dwelling on it is unproductive. You are doing the best you can. Your child would rather have an imperfect but loving parent than a perfect one who is always stressed.

The key is to have realistic expectations, prioritize, set boundaries, and practice self-compassion. With some planning and support, working moms can find fulfillment in both their career and family life without excessive guilt.